We have heard and read about depression, and most of us think that we fully understand it, but do we? People think that depression is a scary thing, and after hearing someone committing suicide because of it, they leave it be. They don’t believe that it could happen to them. As per Healthline, there are about 16.2 million American adults who suffer from depression each year, and according to Verywellmind, about 60 percent of people who commit suicide suffered from major depression.
Our reaction when someone commits suicide, especially when he is famous and rich is “Why! What could have been the problem? What could he possibly be thinking? He got everything!” Sure, it is easy to question the reason for suicide as the action may seem to be too even to be reasonable. What reason could be enough to take one’s life?
What Is It Like Being Trapped In Depression?
- It is like having no energy at all. You are always tired for no reason, and as much as you want to do something productive, you don’t have the will and drive to do it. You want to stay in bed all day.
- It is hating to do the things you once enjoyed like hanging out with friends or such. Sometimes, no matter how your friends push you to come out, you are not interested. You don’t want to engage in conversations.
- It is the feeling of helplessness that you think no matter how you try to make someone understand you, they just can’t, and no matter what they say, it is just not enough to take away the sorrow you are feeling.
- It is the feeling of resentment for people around you. There may be reasons to feel upset about someone, but your emotions are overwhelming that there are times your thoughts could already kill. “Experiencing irritability, hostility, anger, and being sensitive to rejection are all common symptoms when depressed,” adds Shannon Kolakowski, PsyD.
- It is the feeling of hopelessness that you couldn’t see things going well. You believe that you are stuck, and there is no way out. You will tend to give up and accept the negative feeling.
- It makes you pity yourself and maybe blame everyone around you. When you have depression, you tend to be a pessimist, and you are always negative and sad. You are grumpy and unreasonably mad.
Depression is like a trap in your head, and your body is a helpless vessel that follows the negativity. According to Simon Rego, PsyD, chief psychologist at Montefiore Medical Center, “Some people who are diagnosed with depression do not report feeling depressed, sad or low, but rather, they report experiencing significantly diminished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activities most of the day, nearly every day.” Sad thoughts don’t stop coming, and they don’t go away. We may think that we know what depression is, but maybe just the definition, that it is just the feeling of being sad and problematic. However, it is much more than sorrow. People with depression need help, and they need someone to pull them out of the darkness; otherwise, they will be stuck there forever, or worse, find a terrible way out.
“Depression is an illness, an illness that you have little control over, just like any other illness. Nobody tells people with broken bones to get over their pain.” Says Charmaine J. Simmons, LPC. It is not enough to say, “It’s okay. I also get depressed sometimes.” This statement is annoying and an insult. A person may think, “I am going through hell, and she’s saying it like it’s nothing.” Depression is not like a fever that goes away after three days. It takes more than just a pill to overcome. Maybe the best thing to do is not to pretend you understand but to really understand and convince the person to get professional help.