Leaving Stress Untreated Is Dangerous


Screaming kids, stupid bosses, insane in-laws, frozen traffic, dying laptop batteries: everybody has a few sources of stress in their life. The problem is that our brains and minds are just not very good at distinguishing, emotionally, between seeing a sabre-toothed tiger on the horizon and receiving a high phone bill. One is a threat to our family’s safety, the other is really just an unpleasant surprise, but they can both produce the same kinds of physical, fight or flight responses in our bodies – hormones are released, breathing becomes shallower, muscles tense up, heart rate and blood pressure rise.

A single experience of this type is not the end of the world – it is nearly impossible to die from fright. Some people even enjoy the sensation and go skydiving or see horror movies just for the thrill. When simple fear becomes chronic stress, though – when these experiences occur on a daily basis for an extended period of time – the mental and physical consequences can become severe. Everybody should know what the symptoms of unhealthy stress levels are, and recognize them early enough to pursue treatment in the form of medication, talk therapy or other options. Such therapy is becoming a popular option.


Stress and the Individual

It is obvious enough not to need mentioning that not everyone experiences stress and stressful situations in the same way. Someone who will cheerfully step into a boxing ring might be terrified of public speaking. Personalities also differ in how well they cope with stress. Some individuals seem capable of compartmentalizing the different parts of their life so that they can be highly stressed at one moment but totally relaxed the next. Others are able to breeze through life’s rough patches without missing a beat when most of us will want to give up or at least take a step back.

In fact, stress isn’t always bad. In small enough doses, it can heighten a person’s powers of concentration, boost creativity and provide motivation. It only becomes a problem when it produces anxiety or interferes with a person’s daily tasks, which usually happens when it persists over the long term.


Managing the Sources of Stress

The first step to managing the sources of a person’s stress is to identify which “triggers” affect them most, a task which requires a little introspection and self-honesty. Where these stressors can’t be entirely avoided, it is usually at least possible to control their frequency or intensity, or schedule them at times when they are easier to face.

If trying to bulldoze through rush hour is frequently leaving you out of breath by the time you arrive at work, it might be possible to change your schedule. If a family member is constantly laying their burdens on you, it might be time to discuss some boundaries with them. Of course, making such changes will usually require some effort or sacrifice, and you will occasionally have to say “no” for the sake of your own health.

In many cases, a person’s stress triggers will be internal, either in the form of a mental habit that leads to a state of anxiety, or an association with some traumatic event belonging to the past. In this case, managing stress might best be done by consulting a therapist in order to address these root causes.

What Chronic Stress May Bring with It

Long-term stress, such as that caused by conflicts in the family or a persistently unpleasant work situation, is unpleasant enough in and of itself. It can lead to feelings of anxiety, loss of focus and concentration, and insomnia.

Stress is not just a mental phenomenon but places a strain on the whole body, which means that a person’s immune system will become compromised. At work, the first sign that someone is suffering from excessive stress is often them taking an abnormal number of sick days for seemingly unrelated conditions, such as the flu and stomach upsets. If the problem is not addressed, a loss of judgment, avoidance of responsibility and eventual burnout are likely results.

At home, chronic stress may manifest as increased irritability, drawing away from family members and little to no sex drive. Such a person may have little energy and yet have difficulty sleeping or relaxing. It may also be very difficult for them to explain why they are acting the way they do.

If chronic stress is not managed or treated even after the above symptoms have become apparent, things become truly scary. Further mental health issues such as depression and anxiety disorders may develop, as well as any of a large variety of cardiovascular problems. Skin problems such as eczema may appear in persons who have never suffered from them before, and the digestive system also starts to break down.

Chronic stress can literally kill. If it is not recognized in its early stages, it becomes progressively more difficult to address as time goes on. When a person is beginning to feel overwhelmed, whether at work, at home or in any other context, something as simple as going for a quick run can work miracles.…

Psychology For Managers How To Prevent Valuable Employees From Leaving

After profitability and debt to equity ratios, employee churn is probably the best indication of any company’s fundamental health. Every time someone hits the road, all their training, experience and knowledge leave with them. If that person was in a key position, it can take months to rebuild their internal and external relationships, familiarity with the industry and basic competence in that role.


Reducing staff turnover by offering higher salaries is a very poor solution. In the first place, this obviously costs the company money. Secondly, there are certain things people simply won’t do for a wage, with the possible exception of lawyers. Instead, organizing work so that employees don’t end up feeling unappreciated, overburdened or unnecessarily stressed can increase their job satisfaction, company loyalty, and productivity without having to spend a cent.  A pat on the back or words of appreciation or acknowledgment can do wonders, and conversely, can seriously affect employee motivation if otherwise.


Provide Clear Direction

Why do employees at start-up firms cheerfully work insanely long hours for a paltry salary and little job security? Aside from things like stock options, part of what motivates them is the feeling that they are contributing to building something worthwhile; that they are somehow making the world a better place.


Certain leaders are reverently called “visionary”, but merely having a vision is not sufficient by itself. Visionary leaders are those who manage to clearly communicate their objectives and have the ability to do them and teach them to their subordinates. If this is not done, each worker will feel like they are just another cog in the machine instead of a member of a team, unappreciated and easily replaceable.


On a day to day level, it is extremely important that each individual understands what his tasks are, what resources are available to him and what result is expected. This principle is simple to state but is often neglected in practice. It is very dangerous to assume that everyone is always on the same page as far as operational issues are concerned.


Don’t Play Favorites

Every company has more or less valuable employees, but how easy is it to tell the difference? Some people have a talent for putting themselves forward and highlighting their achievements, but the impression this creates is not always directly related to their real productivity.


This issue is magnified in a context where it is difficult to measure performance accurately. Where this is the case, however, a situation often arises where the only reward an employee can expect for good work is more demanding tasks. If a stellar performer realizes that he is doing far more than his colleagues, but receives the same compensation, he will most likely start looking for greener pastures where his contribution will be appreciated.


To avoid the appearance of favoritism, rewards such as promotions and bonuses have to be issued based on a transparent framework. A manager should aim to spend a roughly equal amount of time with each of their subordinates in order to avoid creating a yes-men culture. Where rules regarding dress, timeliness and administrative procedures exist, they should apply equally to every employee with no exceptions.


Pay Attention to the Little Things

An off-hand comment such as “we pay you too much for this” will often cause a highly skilled specialist to walk out, with no notice given and no intention of returning. However many dollars and plastic trophies a person receives, if they feel like they and their work are not appreciated, their dedication will be lost even if they choose to stay a little longer.


Although it’s not required to socialize outside of work or become friends, a good manager will get to know their subordinates as individuals. Building a basic level of rapport and beginning to understand a person’s values and way of thinking is crucial to efficient two-way communication.


Simply knowing how to talk to people is a management skill that’s more valuable than is commonly realized. Asking people for their input on a decision that’s already been taken, failing to practice active listening, and waiting for a formal review before providing feedback on workers’ performances are all frequent yet avoidable mistakes.


Trust Your Employees

When someone is hired, it is implicitly assumed that they will be able to perform the tasks set out in their job description. Constantly looking over their shoulders, asking for updates at every single step and reprimanding them for trivial mistakes are all indications that the employee is not trusted, which will quickly leave them feeling demotivated.


An employee who does feel like he’s being depended on, by contrast, will be that much more likely to seek help or guidance when needed and be more willing to share suggestions and opinions. Occasional mistakes are a part of innovation and improvement, and if workers are afraid to fail, they will be too afraid to work towards progress and efficiency.


Respect the Work/Life Balance

Naturally, at times work will be urgent and overtime required. If this happens occasionally, it is not a problem. If it is a constant occurrence, chances are that a team is understaffed or workflow not being properly managed. Should an employee be forced to choose between his job and his relationship with his family, the family is likely to win out.


In a different world, management might be about maximizing some attributes or metrics. In the one we live in, though, the correct word is optimized. A manager needs to be assertive but not over-controlling, approachable while still maintaining some distance from subordinates, and make employees feel empowered but not rudderless.


This constant balancing act is not easy to accomplish, but the clearest indication that something is not being done right is frequent resignations. Remember: people rarely leave jobs or companies, they leave managers.


Volunteering As A Counselor


It seems that the desire to help others is something that’s innate to the human soul. “Smile and the world smiles with you,” as they say. When we’ve experienced good fortune, we want to share it with the rest of the world. Too often, though, these good intentions get lost in an untrusting world simply because we don’t know where to start. For someone who thinks of helping others only in terms of giving away money, for instance, there are few truly good options.

If a person is willing to donate his time and effort instead, a whole galaxy of choices opens up. One is called voluntourism and is enormously expensive and ethically questionable. Another is to make a commitment of time and energy (without spending a cent), learning about the different types of counseling that exist, and offering assistance to those in need as a volunteer counselor.


Who Might Want to Become a Volunteer Counselor?

Many people who suffered from mental health issues in the past feel a duty or inclination to help others currently in the same position. In fact, a high degree of empathy is a trait often found among those who have recovered from illnesses such as depression or anxiety disorders.

A number of others have a desire to improve the world we live in and realize that their life experiences – as parents, prison inmates, soldiers, trauma survivors, or whatever else – make them more qualified than most to provide help to people in a particular situation. Some retired psychologists and therapists no longer desire to work formally, but still enjoy applying their skills for the benefit of others. Psychology students at all levels, as well as those interested in entering the counseling profession, also frequently use volunteer work as a way to gain experience and references.

Whatever a person’s background, experience, and education, numerous organizations are eager for more volunteer counselors. Where needed, training is usually provided free of charge, and volunteers can count on the support network an existing system provides, including drawing on the experience of veteran counselors. The only real requirements are the willingness to help others, a non-judgmental attitude, some time to spare and the necessary emotional resilience.


What Does the Work Involve?

The actual nature of volunteer counseling depends heavily on the organization involved. Some charities devote their work exclusively to certain groups, such as abused children, victims of crime or the elderly. Others may operate help lines open to anyone experiencing a difficult day, week or year, while certain online discussion boards and chat rooms allow anyone to pose a question or post a reply.

In some cases, volunteers will be required to commit to working a certain number of hours per week or per month. This is simply to ensure that the cost of the training they receive is spent effectively, and to make it easier for the counseling organization to plan their staffing requirements. In the case of pastoral (faith-based) counseling, certain religious criteria might also have to be met.

In some cases, a volunteer will be required to physically travel to a call center or other location to work or for mandatory training, which may comprise several dozen hours. Other groups offer one on one, face to face counseling, in which case a basic background check is usually required for all volunteer counselors. Due to the difficulty of checking identities and credentials online, some websites allow virtually anyone to register as a volunteer, although abusive or unprofessional behavior will not be allowed and may result in real-world consequences.

Volunteering Online

A large proportion of people suffering from mental illness or facing difficult challenges have no one to talk to. This may be because they are isolated from their family for some reason, ashamed to speak to someone they know, unable to afford a professional therapist’s fees or for any of a dozen other reasons.

While unable to offer the same level of care as a psychologist with a master’s degree, a person who spends an hour or so per week answering questions on a website devoted to providing those suffering from depression, relationship issues or general mental strain can do a world of good to people they will never meet. Chances are, whatever life experience or formal counseling training you possess, someone, somewhere in the world is in need of help you can provide. The pay is poor, but the rewards are great.…

Digital Therapy: Improving Medical And Mental Health Solutions

Understanding Digital Therapy

 Technically, digital therapy is a virtual method of treating medical and mental health issues of individuals with varying problems. Some of these people turn to digital therapy because they are hesitant to talk to a therapist or psychiatrist face to face. Ironically, some people have been going to traditional therapy but decided to switch to digital therapy because they found it to be equally therapeutic and effective than going to their usual therapist.

What does digital therapy really encompass and how does it work for our best? Let us learn about it through some stories about people (whom we will name differently) who have experienced and have been successfully treated through digital therapy.


Nicole the Actress

 Having bounced from one traditional therapist to another, Nicole just switched to digital counseling a few weeks ago. She had been used to visiting her shrinks as much as she could, which was once a month – or once in two months – because as an actress she has a hectic schedule and she also travels. According to clinical psychologist Nina Barlevy, PsyD, “online care is not for every patient or practitioner. Clients with more serious mental illnesses or addictions likely need more treatment than digital therapy can provide. And some clinicians may find certain telehealth modalities difficult.”

When asked about the efficacy of traditional therapy for her, she said, “I loved my therapists. They knew when to let me talk it out, and they knew when to let me cry it out. They actually helped me make sense of my insomnia, depression, and anger issues. But Denise and I had to part because I often flew to London for a few months. Rose was next but that time I had two projects which were overlapping and I just couldn’t squeeze her into my schedule.”

She was desperately looking for another therapy clinic while she was in Hollywood when she came across an online community that aims to help people understand the whys and hows of mental health conditions. It also contained some content about the surge of digital counseling in most parts of the world. She thought, “This might work for me. There’s no harm in trying.”

There really isn’t. You can remain anonymous if you want, and all you need to join is a security code that sets you apart from the other ‘patients’ that login for their own therapies. “This kind of effort takes a fair amount of commitment and understanding of the online world.” John M. Grohol, Psy.D. explains.


Liz the Diabetic

 Her heart would race whenever she’s on her way to her physician to have her evaluation. Her appointments usually distracted her naps and she didn’t want to go out because she was a little overweight and she was easily irritated and usually elusive.

When someone introduced her to an app for diabetic care, she finally felt that she would be able to conform to doctor’s orders. The app contained relevant information about diabetes – its causes and symptoms and preventive measures to slow down the disease process. It also provided medical advice about nutrition, insulin dosage, and other data that would help a person understand his or her disease better.

She attests that the results from her current tests showed a reduction in her blood sugar levels. She was following the meal plans that were posted on the app and after a few weeks, her results were fantastic. She had also tried online cognitive behavioral therapy and said that it was really effective.



 We may think that face-to-face therapy is more preferable, but studies suggest that about 57% of individuals treated online were symptom-free after a 30-day trial, and 42% were cured of traditional therapy.

Liz says, “Looking a therapist in the eye across an unfamiliar consulting room when you have something personal to say can be difficult and intimidating. Learning how to take care of myself and preventing my diabetes from aggravating through digital therapy has been one of the best things that happened in my life.”










Why You Should Get Online Anger Management Therapy

The Internet seems to be taking over the planet, but I believe it’s doing so fantastically.

If you want to be famous, you no longer need to apply in TV shows. You can use social platforms like YouTube, Facebook, or Instagram to display your talents, and then mainstream programs will invite you. In case you want to shop for clothes or makeup but can’t do it physically, various labels allow you to purchase stuff online and have items delivered at your doorstep. “Easy peasy lemon squeezy,” as the oldies would say.

Nonetheless, what makes the internet a lovely creation is the fact that you can obtain anger management therapy through it. Yes, the type of counseling that many hot-headed folks need to prevent road rage, gun violence, bullying, and other adverse incidents. But according to Glenn Goldman, MA, LPC, “Anger is not the enemy. It is how we respond to our own anger that can get us into trouble.”

Let’s pore over the reasons why you should get online anger management therapy now.

  1. It’s Affordable

The initial advantage that virtual counseling platforms always carry is the affordability of the services. Even if you comb through the entire city, enter every facility you see, you may not be able to find one that offers high-quality therapy before a hundred dollars. You can’t blame them, for sure, because they typically have to pay for electricity and property. However, considering you can receive the same help in exchange for a cost-effective rate, that is undeniably a steal you shouldn’t ignore.

  1. You Can Get Therapy Anywhere

Can you imagine how unbearable it is to realize that you got anger-management issues to deal with, yet there isn’t a counselor nearby to guide you?

“Anger is a normal human emotion. Sometimes the way that we handle this emotion causes various problems in our lives.” Sarah Howson, LPC, CADC III  said. Some individuals tend to experience that – primarily the ones who live in remote areas or have a physical deformity. It isn’t surprising if the lack of access to a mental health facility frustrates them further. It may even push them to be in their worst suit.

Fortunately, the situation may improve now once you accept online anger management therapy. You’ll only need internet service and a smartphone, laptop or computer to obtain psychological assistance then. Your exact location won’t be a hindrance as well, as long as it lets you connect digitally.

  1. It’s Confidential

If you admit to having temper problems but you don’t want others to know you’re getting help for it, virtual therapy may be a perfect fit for you.

One, you can divulge the story of your life without showing your face. Say what always makes you angry via real-time chats with the therapist, or converse with him or her through calls or texts. Nobody will ask you to video chat, which may make the confessions easier to flow.

Besides, you’ll avoid the risk of running into a familiar face on the streets when you go in or out of the counseling office. Thinking about how people will react to the news might push you off the rails. Hence, it’s marvelous that you don’t have to worry about that after signing up for anger management therapy. Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD used to say, “give yourself permission to do some serious emotional healing to become your happiest self and remember, it is a process more than a destination.”

Anger management problems are probably among the real issues that people tend to overlook at times. They choose to believe that the emotions are valid, that the other person is at fault and they are merely reacting to it. However, if the angry outbursts often occur and due to trivial reasons, then you genuinely need to get help.

So try online anger management therapy today.…

Confiding To A Complete Stranger: Does It Really Help?


I was going shopping with a friend of mine one day when she told me she had what she called an invisible friend online. Claire (not her real name) was going through a tough time. She just broke up with her fiancé – caught him cheating. She was devastated. She would call me up in the middle of the night because she couldn’t sleep. I would give her my time, of course. She was one of my best friends, and she was there for me during my lowest moments. I know how difficult it was.


It was a month since that fateful day and I noticed that Claire had been looking much better – she wore that nice smile of hers again. I told her I was happy that she was finally moving on. And she told me that it was also because of this anonymous chat service she saw in an online community. She had been confiding with some stranger online and she said it was really helping her a lot.


Don’t get me wrong. I was happy for her. The last thing I want is to see my friend sulking and crying over someone who doesn’t deserve her. But I just didn’t like the idea of her having online conversations with people she didn’t know. So I asked her to help me understand the mechanics of anonymous chats, and how it helped her and apparently hundreds of people around the world. This is what she had to say.


She was comfortable discussing what happened because she didn’t see who she was chatting with.

When you’re down and low, you just feel lighter when you ‘take it out’ on someone. And she found that she was more generous in her confessions because her ‘chat mate’ didn’t know who she was as well. She felt free to express how she really felt, and it felt good.


Nobody judges you.

Sometimes when we talk to friends or family, we tend to hold negative emotions that we feel, such as jealousy, grudges, or remorse, for fear that we will be judged. That’s how Claire felt. When she joined the online chat rooms, she eventually spilled everything out without having to be afraid if someone might condemn her or make her feel bad about herself.


She learned to be more creative and generous with her ideas.

According to Simon Rego, PsyD, “Many people mistakenly believe that if you can’t see it like you can a broken bone, it must be less significant and therefore can be overcome by simply using willpower. If not, they mistakenly believe that people who suffer from depression are weak. However, dispelling her depression to a stranger did not only help her move on but it also encouraged her to find more creative ways to help herself move forward. She became more open to sharing her insight on other issues.


Her secrets are safe in the chat room 

“A stressful change in life patterns can trigger a depressive episode. Such stressful events may include a serious loss, a difficult relationship, trauma, or financial problems.” Ben Martin, Psy.D.  says. Anything she divulged stayed there, in the chat room, with that stranger. She found it a little odd at first, sharing her secrets and expressing the hurt and depression that were weighing her down. However, she later realized that the anonymity itself was what kept her glued to regularly visiting the chat room because she trusted the place she was in.


She was free to chat when she wanted and free to leave when she wanted.

Unlike doctor’s appointments where you were obliged to get to the bottom of why you went there in the first place, you are not at all forced to finish what you started right then and there. If you feel like you can’t tell your chat mate what really happened, then you can always leave and come again another time.



Anonymous chat rooms are just a great option for people who are suffering from mental illness and who are scared of being judged. The stigma of going to therapy may not be that rampant but it still exists. My friend is only one of the many people who can benefit from these resources. Learning how to cope and move on with the help of a stranger just might be your answer.


Avoiding and Managing Anxiety Attacks

Most emergencies arise from somewhere outside ourselves: we suddenly realize that we should have looked both ways before crossing the street, we get a phone call from the hospital, or the water heater breaks down. In these cases, it’s usually clear that we have to do something and what that action should be.


For some people, however, a crisis can arise from inside themselves, often without warning and for no apparent reason. This is called a panic or anxiety attack and is by no means pleasant. Since those who have not experienced one have great difficulty in understanding these seizures, anxiety attack help is rarely taught in first aid courses. So how do you help a person in such cases?


“Anxiety is often used as a tool to help you push yourself to your limit of achievement. The downside is that there are often negative meanings attached, such as not being good enough or not valuing rest.” That is according to Kristine Tye, MA, LMFT. Still, an impending anxiety attack might cause someone to have to pull over if driving or hide out in the bathroom until it passes. If these episodes are frequent, they can prevent a person from doing certain kinds of work and may cause them to withdraw from society or refuse to visit crowded public places.


The Symptoms of an Anxiety Attack

“Some commonly held beliefs about anxiety disorders that are mostly or partially false, including why reducing stress, thinking positive thoughts, gaining insight about its origins, and lots of reassurance often do not really help much in reducing significant symptoms of anxiety.” – Sally Winston, PsyD

An anxiety attack is partly mental but is mostly a physical event. The way it expresses itself can also be very different depending on the individual. The duration may range from a minute or so up to an hour.

The most noticeable and characteristic symptom is the sudden or rapid onset of extreme fear or anxiety, without any clear cause to explain its severity. On a physical level, uncontrollable trembling, sweating, heart palpitations and dizziness are common. These are frequently accompanied by a shortness of breath, numbness in the limbs and nausea. Severe attacks may cause a person to lose consciousness.


What to Do When Having a Panic Attack

Robert Allison, MA, LPC used to say, “When anxiety is at it’s worst and reaches the level of panic it can be debilitating and feel paralyzing. Your mind gets a little too suspicious. Suspicious of what might happen, what could happen, suspicious of other people.” But the first thing to remember is that it’s of no use to start panicking about panicking: a person in the midst of an attack will often feel that they’re dying, but this is not the case. It may seem that you are unable to breathe or about to have a heart attack, but rest assured that this will not happen. It is important to realize that this event will certainly pass, probably in no more than a few minutes, and might leave you feeling somewhat silly but otherwise unharmed.


Sit or lie down if possible, especially if feeling lightheaded. The simplest, most effective technique to calm down is to control your breathing. Take slow, deep breaths that last ten seconds each. Direct your thoughts to something comforting, such as imagining a pet or your bedroom.


Ways to Avoid Anxiety Attacks

A body that isn’t functioning as it should can contribute greatly to all kinds of psychological issues, including anxiety disorders. Regular exercise, such as walking fast for half an hour each day, as well as a balanced diet, can often eliminate panic attacks, or at least reduce their frequency and severity. Chemicals such as caffeine, nicotine, and alcohol all contribute to anxiety, as can unstable blood sugar levels.


Anxiety attacks are often associated with some kind of psychological disorder, such as PTSD or social anxiety. It is, therefore, worth identifying what experiences and circumstances are associated with panic attacks, even to the point of keeping a log of each event. These triggers are not always obvious since our minds rely heavily on symbolic representations of memories and phenomena.


Once a trigger for anxiety attacks has been identified, it is time to address the issues at the root of the problem. This is not always easy, but it is the surest route to becoming free of unnatural anxiety. Avoiding stressful situations may be a good solution in the short term, but isolating yourself from the world means that you are restricting your happiness unnecessarily.


Meditation and yoga may help in this regard, but anyone with persistent or severe anxiety will do well to seek professional help. Money and time spent on therapy will rarely be wasted. No psychologist or counselor in the world will be able to do the necessary mental work for you, but they can at least point the way and give invaluable advice and support.…

8 Reasons Why We All Need Therapy



Many will disagree with this, but it is a fact that everyone needs a specific form of therapy at some point in their lives. It doesn’t mean that you’re crazy if you’re seeing a therapist or a counselor for private sessions. In reality, you are considered a very courageous individual if you want to get help for your issues. It’s just that the stigma on counseling prevents people from seeking the much-needed services from qualified mental health professionals. “Sadly, only a small percentage of people actively seek professional help for their mental health problems,” says Sal Raichbach, PsyD.


Why We Need The Help Of A Therapist


You go into a room and sit in front of your therapist as you mumble away all your problems, fears, and worries. But that’s not all there is to therapy. Sarah Rumpf, MA, LPCC  says that “Therapy is a lot like other things in life, in that you’ll get out of it what you put in. You’ll need to put in effort to get results.” You are not there just to talk about whatever you like. Counseling is more than that.


The pressures of life have become overwhelming for most of us, and this is the very point as to why we need to unload all of it. If we do not process our emotions well, mental health issues will surface and complicate a person’s life even more. All alone in our thoughts, it can sometimes cause irrational beliefs and unreasonable logic. We tend to think negatively and may harm ourselves by being reactive or explosive. Maybe even, at worse, inflict self-harm.


We all need someone who will understand us and let us release our emotional issues, but also help us make ourselves feel better afterward. That’s what a therapist or counselor can do for you. It may be a small or significant issue. Still, you need a helping “hand.”


Here are eight reasons as to why we all need therapy:


  1. When you feel lost, or you feel that you have lost your way and didn’t know where to go, then it’s a sign that you need therapy. How else can you find clarity if it’s just you drowning in your thoughts? You will need someone to guide you when you are so lost, and the only qualified person to do that is a therapist.


  1. According to Sarah Howson, LPC, CADC III, “Anger is a normal human emotion. Sometimes the way that we handle this emotion causes various problems in our lives.” But if you are abnormally angry, always agitated and extremely moody for an extended period, then something is bothering you that you can’t quite process on your own. With that, you will require a specialist who can help you let it all out healthily. That is one of the functions of a counselor.


  1. There are times when significant changes in life challenge us mentally and emotionally. What are these changes? It can be marriage, divorce, the death of a loved one, moving homes, starting a new job, resigning from your position, and more. With this, you can become stressed out and overwhelmed. A therapist can help you cope with these life changes by practicing specific strategies.


  1. Have you felt that you are losing control of your life? If yes, then you can benefit from therapy. The therapist will help you regain the feeling so that you can move on positively in control.


  1. Who doesn’t have a strained relationship here, right? Everyone is bound to experience heartache because of their loved ones. It can be your spouse, partner, significant other, parents, siblings, family members, or friends. A counselor will lead you to a path of self-discovery so that the pain of dealing with a strained relationship is manageable and you will be able to cope.


  1. Those suffering from lack of sleep can also enlist the help of a therapist. People who can’t sleep well at night are troubled subconsciously. You need at least 8 hours of sleep without interruptions so you can function correctly. With that, a qualified therapist can assist you with insomnia through a specified program.


  1. Some people tend to harm themselves due to self-hate, frustration, helplessness, and hopelessness. If you are contemplating about it, STOP RIGHT THERE. DON’T DO IT. Instead, call a suicide hotline immediately and tell them about your situation. After that, contact a therapist online for a quick response.


  1. At times we feel all alone or isolated. You know what? Talking helps, mainly if you speak with a counselor. You will never feel alone again.


There are so many reasons as to why people must go into therapy. These points mentioned are just some of the essential purposes of seeing a therapist.…

Life Counseling Services: Fight Suicidal Thoughts (Here’s What You Can Do)

When you are suicidal, you only think about the negative things in your life. You lose focus and suddenly lose the interest to live. You are sad and lonely, devastated and hopeless. But it shouldn’t have to be that way. Here’s what you can do to fight suicidal thoughts.

Ways To Fight Suicidal Thoughts

  • Remove anything that you could use to harm yourself. Blades, ropes, pills, or anything that might cause any physical damage, you have to get rid of them. If you are in an unsafe place, move away. Find ways to detach yourself from committing suicide.
  • Tell someone how you feel. Your friends, your family, or even your pet can be that someone. It is so important because it makes you feel less alone and it helps a lot. It makes you more in control of your feelings. Talking to someone helps in removing some parts of your emotional burden.
  • Draw, paint, sing, and dance. It’s perfectly okay to feel like not talking to anyone. However, you should find other things to do rather than thinking about suicide. Working on your hobbies is something that can make you consider other things rather than harming yourself.
  • Be kind to yourself. Bear in mind that the only person that can help you is yourself. It may be difficult in certain situations but don’t let your emotions take over your decisions. You can at least talk to yourself and tell it how much it needs to focus on living. “Focus on yourself and your own happiness and do not compare yourself to others.” As advised by Marc Romano, PsyD.
  • Act in an opposite approach and counteract how you feel. Instead of thinking of killing yourself, work on ways to pamper yourself. You can take a hot shower, cook your favorite food, get a new haircut, watch a funny movie, go to the mall, and so on. Find ways to divert your attention to something that keeps you away from having suicidal thoughts.
  • Write down things you would want to experience. Get a piece of paper and write down things you look forward to achieving in your life. It could be a holiday trip, visiting your favorite restaurant, getting a new car, transferring into a new apartment, or anything that’s pretty much attainable. Take time to read it often so you won’t misalign your thoughts.
  • Value the people around you and don’t push them away. To be able to feel less alone, keep people close to you all cost. This way, you won’t only make yourself feel comfortable, but it will also prevent you from thinking about suicide. Always consider everybody’s presence because they can serve as someone who would be there for you anytime.
  • Come up with a safety plan. Sometimes, you won’t be able to control your emotions, so you need to address it as soon as possible. Don’t allow time to decide for you. Have a list of emergency hotlines in case anything happens. Take a list of coping strategies that you feel comfortable doing.
  • Contact professional help. There’s no better way to address your situation but to seek professional advice. Therapists can explain to you what’s happening and why you’re having those negative thoughts. It’ll allow you to be aware of your current situation. “Therapists can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship troubles, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, body image issues and creative blocks,” says Chris Corbett, PsyD.

“Not all people who have thoughts of suicide end up acting on those thoughts. But for those who do, generally there is deep emotional pain combined with a belief that things will never improve.” Dr. Chantal Gagnon Ph.D. LMHC explains. But if you know your reasons to fight, you won’t have intentions to quit. Always remember that there’s something good about life.


My Ex-Husband Said I Need A Psychiatrist, And Here’s Why


Woman, you have got to calm down. I ain’t talking to you when you’re like this, some batshit crazy person who just came out of the loony bin.” The imbecile coldheartedly told me that after I discovered that he has an ongoing affair with my son’s tutor. I know! He has to tap our son’s teacher, and our boy doesn’t even need his father’s “help” on that matter since he is brilliant. I was beyond pissed.

I do understand what Stacy Donn Cristo, LMHC used to say, “Love is the root of what brings each and every one of us to therapy—the need to understand love, the hunger and desperation to find love and experience love, the desire to love and the desire to be loved.” But clearly, I was at the end of my rope, and I told him to screw himself, his new fugly girlfriend, and that I wanted a divorce. Immediately. He laughed and said, “Like you need to remind me twice, b*#$@! (Starts with a B and rhymes with SITCH.) You’re the worst lay I have ever had in my entire life. Go to a psychiatrist, or maybe a sex therapist so that you’d learn a thing or two about it. No wonder I keep cheating on you. Pathetic.”

I was stunned. His words crushed my being. I mean, we’ve been together since we were fifteen and we learned everything from each other. Now, after all these years and two beautiful kids, he has the guts to tell me that I suck in bed? That was his reason for cheating on me and breaking our marriage vows? Hell, no.

But what if he was right? He has had practice over the years. I’d find him with another girl or some slut, and we’d separate for a bit. After a few months, I’d forgive him. That was the cycle. But this time it’s different. I never told him that I wanted a divorce until now. Ten or more infidelity discoveries in eight years – this is the first time I’ve said that I want a divorce. This is also the first time he said that he also wants it, in a way.

Did I cry? Yes, I did. I’d be lying if I said no. We were sweethearts for five years and married for eight years. That’s thirteen years of my life with him. I love that stupid momma’s boy to the bone, but I realized that he doesn’t love me enough. If he cared about me, he wouldn’t have hurt me over and over again. But he did, and I think he’s right. Not on the sex part though since I know that I’m a goddess in the sack. He was right when he said that I needed to see a psychiatrist.

Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC article once quoted that “Happy people do things differently. They make their emotional wellbeing a priority and practice daily and weekly habits that help them create joy, happiness and satisfaction in their lives.” With that, I need to heal from all the low self-esteem, barely-there self-confidence, the verbal and emotional abuse, and well, my upcoming divorce. We have two sons together, and I am left to explain to our boys why mommy and daddy need to separate for good. I am left to explain that daddy’s new girlfriend is their tutor. How am I going to tell that to a couple of six-year-olds? Now, I am sure that I need some type of help.

To say that I regret to have met him is false. I wouldn’t have my sons if we didn’t meet. If there were one thing that he gave me that was precious, it would be our children. Other than that, I would like to close the books on our past and start moving forward. “Focus on yourself and your own happiness and do not compare yourself to others,” says Marc Romano, PsyD. And that is what I am going to do.…