Healing Minds


Healing Benefits of Counseling


There are a number of things in life that can have an effect on the state of your emotional wellbeing and mental health. These disruptions to your emotional wellbeing can give rise to feelings such as sadness, stress, and anxiety.

Finding ways to deal with these emotions is the first step to healing and improving the state of your mental health. There are many individuals or families that have discovered the healing value of therapy and the importance of finding ways to deal with the emotions that cause the distress. “Therapy can remind you how to take care of yourself and develop a plan so you know your sources of support,” says Carmen Gehrke, LMHC.



Who Needs Counseling?


According to Brittany N. Murphy, PHD, LPC, NCC, BC-TMH, “Counseling is an empowering process in which people take responsibility for and control over their lives.” There are a number of reasons that an individual or family can seek out therapy or counseling. There are also a number of different types of counseling that one can choose from. Reasons to seek out counseling or therapy can include:


  • Major life events such as grief, divorce, illness, etc
  • Mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety, etc
  • Anger management
  • Family issues such as divorce, foster care, adoption, and more
  • Addiction
  • Life Changing Illness such as HIV, AIDS, etc
  • Grief and loss
  • Personality traits such as low self-esteem
  • Family counseling to deal with the effects of a loved one with mental disorder or life-changing illness



Types of Counseling


There are a number of different types of counselors and therapists, each with their own approach as to how they would aid the individual in dealing with the problem for which they seek out counseling.  The types of therapy and counselors can include:


  • Marriage Counselor
  • Child and Family Counseling.
  • Career and Guidance Counseling.
  • Rehabilitation Counselor
  • Mental health Therapists, counselors and group therapy
  • Substance Abuse Therapy or Group Counseling such as AA.
  • Educational Counseling
  • Social Workers


Counseling For the Unemployed, Homeless and Transients

Chris Oneth LMFT  says “Through simple and direct counsel and coaching you may discover great potentials that can move your job and career to a positive place you never thought possible.” Therefore, finding support or seeking out therapy can be difficult when you are faced with challenges such as unemployment or homelessness. However, it is not impossible. A person who wants to seek out support or therapy can:


  • Speak to a social worker and ask about free community projects
  • Speak to shelter coordinators
  • Chat with your local healthcare workers
  • Find instant support & online therapy if you have access to technology
  • Speak to your local ministries



Disease Management



Disease Management is another reason that one can seek out therapy or counseling. Managing health through counseling, group therapy, and one-on-one therapy aims to assist an individual in coping and learning to live with diseases such as HIV and AIDS.

The purpose of counseling is to provide the person with information and prepare them for the personal, medical and social implications of being diagnosed with a disease surrounded by stigmas such as HIV or AIDS. Being diagnosed with a disease such as HIV can be traumatic, and counseling or therapy will guide you in learning to manage and live with the outcome.


Behavioral Health Services Homeless 

This form of counseling and health service provides people who are homeless with support. Support can include counseling for substance abuse, addiction, and mental health. This is achieved through a number of outreach programs and crisis management teams. There are a number of these outreach programs available and also something that communities can come together to support.


Counseling to Prevent Homelessness

There are also a number of prevention programs that offer counseling and support that includes intervention, budget counseling, and assistance in accessing community and government resources in their communities.

“Because Everyone Deserves a Home-The Way Home”  is one such group that offers support, counseling, and guidance for prevention and rehabilitation for homelessness.…

Will Couples Counseling Work Even After A Cheating Fiasco?



When loveless folks watch a drama where the spouse gets caught while cheating on their better half, some assume that the latter is exaggerating when she says something along the lines of “I would’ve preferred it if you just hurt me physically.”

Although any form of violence isn’t acceptable, statements similar to that make sense even in the real world. Welts, bruises, and other physical injuries may heal and not leave marks, but the pain that comes with being on the receiving end of infidelity may not disappear quickly, especially if the victim remembers the incident over and over.

A lifesaver during such a fiasco is couples counseling. To find out if it’ll work for you, below are the things that a counselor may ask you both to do.



  1. Realize The Problem

Often, cheaters won’t readily accept the accuse, thinking that what they did wasn’t technically cheating. In other cases, the supposedly betrayed spouse only has suspicion and hearsay on their side.

When this situation takes place, the therapist has to dig deeper into your thoughts to know if you and your spouse have the same idea about infidelity. The former can then share what honestly constitutes cheating so that both parties are on the same page.

The marriage therapy is already 50% successful once you get to admit that an extramarital affair did occur.

  1. Identify And Resolve Existing Issues

The couples counselor will also encourage you to talk about your problems with each other in a neutral setting. Partners who have a rocky relationship or individual careers to expand, to be specific, don’t always have the opportunity to do that. If they aren’t fighting, they’re just not conversing.

At least, in the presence of a therapist, you can finally bring all your issues with your significant other to the table, and vice versa. You may take turns as well in clearing those topics so that it’ll be easier to fix the marriage or split into good terms.

  1. Assess The Relationship Status

A common reason that cheaters give is that they have fallen out of love or that the spouse has no time for them. While that is more of an alibi than a valid excuse, it merely shows that your coupling needs a severe-evaluation.

Can you still see yourself living and being happy with your better half after five years or so? Can you trust him or her again and bury the proverbial hatchet between you two? Give such questions some thought now.

If the answer is ‘yes’ to either or both, and your spouse feels the same, you can still save your marriage. But in case trust and love are no longer there, then it may be better to end your relationship.


Whether you decide to get a divorce or continue your relationship after the counseling is up to you. What’s important is that you’ll be able to get rid of your emotional burdens and the what-ifs in your head. That is the kind of privilege that you deserve to have after the fiasco, after all.…

Things To Tell Yourself If Seeing A Psychiatrist For The First Time



Have you never reached out to a psychiatrist even though you should’ve already done it?

A few things come to mind when a “yes” comes after that question.

One, the consultation hours may not fit with your hectic schedule. Two, your insurance won’t cover the bill, and you don’t have enough cash to pay for it. Or, three, you’re afraid that the trip to the psychiatric clinic will earn you bothersome nicknames like “loony” or “crazy.”

While the ideas above may sound legitimate in your head, they remain mere excuses. They prevent you from getting the mental help you truly need. So in case, you wish to change the course of your thoughts – and your life – find out the right things to tell yourself if seeing a psychiatrist for the first time.

  1. I’m Not Doing Anything Wrong

That, of course, is true. Psychiatry is a recognized field of medicine; the doctor isn’t some voodoo practitioner that will make you iller. Thus, seeking assistance in that aspect isn’t wrong. Sal Raichbach, PsyD said, “Sadly, only a small percentage of people actively seek professional help for their mental health problems.” Indeed, that is true.

As you enter the office, you’re taking the first step towards healing. You won’t do it, considering you don’t recognize that you have a problem. You may or may not know its specifics, but that’s what you’ll learn once you see a psychiatrist.



  1. I Will Listen To My Psychiatrist

Pay attention to what the doctor tells you as well because you need to take in every information available about your condition. Without that knowledge, how will you be able to remedy the issues?

In case the mental health professional recommends journaling to you, try not to think that they’re ridiculous. Don’t say stuff like, “What am I, a 12-year-old kid who needs a diary?”Instead, do as they suggest, and then figure out if the activity will help you or not.

Psychiatrists won’t push you to keep on doing something when it’s evident that it doesn’t suit you. As Brittany N. Murphy, PHD, LPC, NCC, BC-TMH used to say, “Every counseling session should be your choice, and a choice that you feel moves you towards wellness.” However, they won’t know that unless you comply with what they’re saying.

  1. I Should Be Patient

Know that you also have to maintain your patience throughout your recovery period. While scientists understand mental health now more than ever, there’s still no long-term remedy for all psychiatric disorders out there. Despite that, physicians try their best to lessen your pain and make the symptoms extra bearable.

In times when you want to give up or yell at your psychiatrist, count from one through ten in your head. You may learn some breathing techniques as well so that you’re often calm.

  1. I Have To Tell The Doctor Everything

Indeed, you have to face the truth: going to a psychiatric office entails all your secrets will come out. Perhaps it may not happen in the first session, but it eventually should in due time. After all, the psychiatrist will only be able to help you get better once they know the full extent of your problems. According to Robin D. Stone, LMHC, “Science shows that the mental benefits include improved memory and strengthened neural connections.”

If you feel uncertain about doing so, then look at the diplomas and accolades that your physician garnered in the past. The more psychiatry-related certifications there are, the more trustworthy your psychiatrist should be. You are free to ask friends and family members for recommendations too.



Can you say these things to yourself and believe that you can follow through with every word? In case you’re positive about it, that means you’re truly ready to see a psychiatrist for the first time. Good luck!…

Reasons For Overachievers To Seek Therapy

Knowing that you are the best brings out positive feelings, doesn’t it?

At the office, your boss looks for you first when there’s a vacancy for a higher position or a critical project to handle. Without your circle, your opinion matters more than anyone. The trophies and awards you received over the years may be covering the entire wall in your house as well.…

Importance Of Short Commute To Work When You Are In A Relationship

Have you always wondered how two-career people get to make their relationship work?

They do not need complex equations for that, frankly speaking. These people merely take into consideration one facet that many couples tend to overlook: the distance between their house and their workplace.



Two reasons might fuel this scenario: 1) you already bought or inherited a home far from your new job, or 2) the cost of living near the office is almost beyond your pay grade. For sure, it is fathomable if you cannot move due to either cause. It cannot be wise indeed to bite more than what you can chew, right?

Despite that, in case you have the financial means to relocate and shorten your travel time to work, you should grab the closest residential unit to your workplace. It will not only be for the sake of your productivity, after all – your relationship will benefit from it too.



It Gives You Plenty Of Free Hours To Spend With Your Partner

For starters, imagine needing to commute to the office for two to three hours, depending on how suffocating the traffic jam may be. If work starts at seven in the morning, you have to leave your home around four or five o’clock. Once your eight-hour shift ends, you might get stuck on the road with thousands of cars for several hours. By the time you pull up to the driveway, it is possible that you barely have the energy to gather your stuff, change your clothes, and set the alarm clock before you zonk out.

It is highly significant for you to understand that this circumstance is only appropriate for bachelors and bachelorettes. In case you live with your significant other, though, he or she may feel neglected if that becomes your daily routine. It may not take long before your partner stops putting up with your schedule and asks for their freedom.

Now, assuming your office is five minutes away or just next door, your better half will not complain about your lack of time for him or her. You can spend hours together and even sleep in occasionally since your work site is near. That is a plus point for your relationship, of course.


The Short Trip May Lessen Your Stress

A lengthy commute to work can short-circuit your fuse as well, primarily if you are not used to the situation. You may already be moody as you enter the building, but then your irritation might explode once you or your colleagues mess up with your tasks. Worse, the high level of stress that comes with those negative emotions might stick with you even when you reach the house, thus enabling you to pick fights with your partner.

Is that a great way to maintain a relationship? Not in this lifetime, no. So to avoid losing your sanity – and your significant other – you must shorten your travel time.


Going Back And Forth For Work Is Not Worth The Effort

Assuming your boss offers to raise your salary by 20 percent, but he or she requires you to go to a location that is at least an hour away from home, will you accept the job?

As tempting as it appears, you should respectfully decline the proposition. Apart from not having much quality time for your better half, you will also lose a lot economic-wise. Based on a study from the University of Zurich, you need to receive no less than 40 percent of your current pay to make the long commute worth the effort. Otherwise, look for a job near your home.



Hopefully, it already makes sense to you why some people choose to move pretty close to their workplaces, as well as why you should consider it too.