Feeding Your Brain

The average human brain weighs only about two and a half pounds, yet consumes as much as a fifth of all the body’s energy. This very important organ also has unique nutritional requirements – and if these are not met adequately, the results can include impaired mental function, irritability, frequent headaches and even diseases such as clinical depression. While following a healthy diet is not always the easiest option, it is one aspect of everyone’s health that’s possible to make a habit of paying attention to, and will, in the long run, save piles of money in the form of savings on medication and doctor’s fees. While most people have a fairly good idea of what to eat (and what to avoid) when it comes to maintaining their hearts and arteries, fewer realize that their nervous system also needs a few particular nutrients to keep operating at its best.



Potassium is chemically similar to sodium, found in table salt and processed food, and both play a role in the way nerve cells generate electrical pulses for communication. Most people in the First World consume excessive amounts of sodium but not enough potassium, and an imbalance in this ratio is a major cause of high blood pressure, reduced memory function and less blood flowing through the brain.


Good sources of potassium include bananas, plantains, and oranges – the bad news being that reaching the recommended daily intake means consuming as many as ten bananas. Supplements are another option and are sometimes prescribed for patients suffering from dementia.



Like potassium and sodium, calcium ions are essential to normal nerve function. A lack of this mineral will often cause a patient to exhibit anxiety or instability in their moods, but very high levels of calcium in the blood can also cause harm. Three cups of milk contain the recommended daily allowance for adults, although reasonable amounts are also found in various vegetables (particularly leafy greens such as spinach and kale), nuts and seeds. For vegans, tofu is an excellent plant-based source.


When it comes to minerals, how much a person ingests is not the only important factor: how much of what is eaten is actually absorbed and used by the body is more significant. In the case of calcium, vitamin D is expended in taking it in, so that a lack of sunlight can cause calcium deficiency even in someone who apparently consumes a lot of it. Other steps to take include spreading out the intake of calcium throughout the day, since too much hitting the digestive system at once means that less will be absorbed.


Vitamin B-12

As a person gets older, their brains show a reduction in the amount of a chemical called myelin in their brain cells, which is linked to accelerated brain aging and shrinkage. Consuming enough vitamin B-12 can slow down this process and even prevent conditions such as Alzheimer’s disease from taking root. Furthermore, B-12 plays an important role in cell metabolism throughout the body, including nerve cells.


Vitamin B-12 deficiency is a particular problem for vegetarians since the best sources of it are meats, shellfish, eggs, and dairy products. Even those who eat meat may be suffering from this condition without realizing it, since it is not easily diagnosable until its effects are permanent and debilitating. Apart from supplements in pill form, many breakfast cereals are fortified with B-12. It is an excellent idea to consult a doctor before starting on B-12 supplements, as they may induce harmful interactions with various medications.


Omega-3 Fatty Acids

Dieticians will generally encourage people to include less fat in their diet, but all fats are not equally bad, and some are truly essential. In particular, there are some chemicals our bodies need but cannot manufacture by itself, of which omega-3 is one.


As with potassium and sodium, it’s important not only to consume enough omega-3 fats, but also maintain a balance between it and its chemical cousin, omega-6. While both are found in animal sources – particularly “oily” fish such as salmon, mackerel and sardines – their relative concentrations vary based on factors such as whether beef is grass-fed or grain-fed. A diet high in fresh fruit, vegetables and whole grains is also capable of providing a person with sufficient omega-3


Although omega-3 is beneficial for the body in numerous ways, it is particularly important to mental function. A chronic lack of this vital chemical can lead to diseases such as bipolar disorder, depression, ADHD, schizophrenia and developmental impairments. For this reason, consuming sufficient quantities of this essential fatty acid is particularly important for breastfeeding mothers and growing children.


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Changing your eating habits (not to mention those of your family) can be a daunting task, so making small consistent efforts will likely yield better results than trying for an instant lifestyle makeover. It’s not necessary to start planning your meals with a spreadsheet – containing your calorie consumption to a reasonable level, adding more fruit and vegetables and varying your diet as much as possible are all good starting points for those concerned about their brain’s health, not only next month but well into old age.





You Matter

Feeling Unappreciated



Being diagnosed with cancer can come with a number of intense challenges and emotions to deal with. This period can be overwhelming for not only the patient but those around them as well. Having to try and cope with the emotions that can come with being diagnosed with cancer can often result in the patient forgetting that his cancer affects family and friends too. Loved ones are likely dealing with emotions and fear much the same as those of the patient.


How the diagnosis affects relationships depends on the relationship and each person’s individual coping style.


From Family, Friends, and Relationships on Cancer.net: Watch the Moving Forward video on Family and Friends,


It is important to consider how your diagnosis affects those around you. Often, family therapy and in some instances group therapy is a great way to aid families in dealing with cancer as a unit.


Your health comes first


Having been a caregiver for my mom and now my husband, I know what it feels like to feel unappreciated and taken for granted especially after giving up what you love in life to help care for a loved one.  Unless you have cancer you cannot possibly understand the fear, pain, and anger.”Joniwriter CSN.Cancer.Org

How family Counseling Can Help


Family Counseling can help in sorting out many of the different challenges that families can go through when a loved one is diagnosed with cancer. It is also a great way for families to learn coping tools together that will enable them to offer each other support during this period. Knowing how the next person feels is the first step to dealing with the emotions one is feeling. Counseling can help with:

  • Learning to cope with the emotional reactions to cancer
  • Help friends and family to sort through their own fears about the diagnosis
  • Give family units the tools to strengthen bonds during this challenging time
  • Help the family to prepare for what may lie ahead

“What struck her, as she struggled to cope in the weeks following, was how difficult it was for everyone around her to deal with her news. They all wanted to help, to say the right thing. Yet somehow, all too often, their best attempts at kindness proved more debilitating than comforting. The grim reality of cancer is that life, with all its myriad demands, continues: the dog still needs walking, the daily meals need preparing and dishing up. What can I do to help? you ask. Well, stand by, because the answer is: plenty.” What Can I Do To Help by Deborah Hutton

Tools for Families and Caregivers


Families and caregivers want to help and offer to support their loved ones during this challenging period. It is not uncommon that loved ones are so focused on caring for the patient that they overlook their own well-being. There are a number of tools, forums, and communities available for those dealing with a loved one, family member or friend with cancer. For example:

Caregiver Distress Checklist (Caregiver Self-Assessment Questionnaire)

There are a number of support options for family members and caregivers. These include:

  • Take care of yourself, maintain a good diet, get enough rest and maintain your own mental health
  • Educate yourself on how best to assist the patient. Knowing what to expect can help you deal with and offer support for symptoms and side effects
  • Consider joining support group or seeking out support from a therapist or other support resources
  • Online communities and forums are also a great way to speak to like-minded people about dealing with the challenges



Will Counseling Make A Difference?

The Benefits of Counseling

There are a number of things in life that can disrupt the state of your emotional wellbeing. These disruptions can give rise to feelings such as sadness, stress and anxiety. The state of your mental health influences your physical wellbeing. For example, stress and anxiety can cause insomnia. Not getting enough rest can then lead to other problems. One way or another, our emotions affect our physical wellbeing, sometimes in a small way, other times these emotions affect us more severely.


The same goes for your physical health which can also affect your mental health. It is not uncommon that people with serious chronic illnesses also have to deal with poor mental health, such as dealing with depression.


Simply put, your poor physical health can give rise to poor mental health, and poor mental health can also lead to poor physical health.



Types of Counseling Services Available

There are a number of counseling options available. This could include:


  • Individual counseling
  • Family counseling
  • Groups Counseling


With the help of your counselor, you can decide which of the service options would suit your needs. At times, some individuals might require a combination of these services. But Sarah Rumpf, MA, LPCC reminds people that “Counseling is an investment that requires commitment. You will be spending time, money, and emotional energy to process and/or solve problems.”


There are also a number of different therapists available and each offers you a different treatment plan. It is therefore important that you consider the options of therapy and find what best suits your needs before making a decision. These include:


  • Counselor
  • Therapist
  • Psychiatrist
  • Psychologist



Good Mental Health =Good Physical Health

Maintaining good mental health will have a positive effect on your physical wellbeing. Speak to your healthcare providers and learn all you can about your cancer and the treatment. Knowledge is power. Knowing what to expect and learning how to deal and manage the obstacles your illness might present will help you feel less out of control. Never give up. Keep trying. Remember to “take a mental health day, take time off from work and refuel & recharge, whatever that looks like for you personally.” As Audra J Lee LMFT advice.



The Importance of Counseling

Counseling is not a quick fix but rather about self-discovery. With counseling, you will learn to arm yourself with the tools and knowledge to effectively deal with the emotions and challenges that can come with cancer. With support and guidance, you will learn to develop the skills you will need to deal with the emotions you could be feeling during this time.


Being able to deal with your emotions will also result in better relationships with friends and family. Speaking to family and friends is often not easy to do when you are dealing with your own emotions, but with the assistance of counseling you will have better control over how you feel.


With counseling, you will also learn to cope with what is still to come. Doctor appointments, testing and treatment can be challenging times, and also extremely emotional times. Knowing how to deal with what you will be feeling helps you manage the things you can control. Chris Oneth LMFT says that “Connecting with a therapist can help you get through the “groundhog day” of never-ending cycles where you feel continually defeated.”


“Many doctors encourage their patients to seek out a therapist after a diagnosis of cancer. In counseling, many people are able to explore ways to cope with their diagnosis, manage any emotional concerns—such as depression, anxiety, anger, and confusion—that may result after receiving news of their illness, and discuss ways to address and cope with any life changes that may occur during the treatment process. For example, many of those diagnosed with cancer may fear becoming unable to work and losing their income and health insurance. Those with families may experience distress over sharing the news with a partner or spouse and any children they may have.” Goodtherapy.org


Healing Minds


Healing Benefits of Counseling


There are a number of things in life that can have an effect on the state of your emotional wellbeing and mental health. These disruptions to your emotional wellbeing can give rise to feelings such as sadness, stress, and anxiety.

Finding ways to deal with these emotions is the first step to healing and improving the state of your mental health. There are many individuals or families that have discovered the healing value of therapy and the importance of finding ways to deal with the emotions that cause the distress. “Therapy can remind you how to take care of yourself and develop a plan so you know your sources of support,” says Carmen Gehrke, LMHC.



Who Needs Counseling?


According to Brittany N. Murphy, PHD, LPC, NCC, BC-TMH, “Counseling is an empowering process in which people take responsibility for and control over their lives.” There are a number of reasons that an individual or family can seek out therapy or counseling. There are also a number of different types of counseling that one can choose from. Reasons to seek out counseling or therapy can include:


  • Major life events such as grief, divorce, illness, etc
  • Mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety, etc
  • Anger management
  • Family issues such as divorce, foster care, adoption, and more
  • Addiction
  • Life Changing Illness such as HIV, AIDS, etc
  • Grief and loss
  • Personality traits such as low self-esteem
  • Family counseling to deal with the effects of a loved one with mental disorder or life-changing illness



Types of Counseling


There are a number of different types of counselors and therapists, each with their own approach as to how they would aid the individual in dealing with the problem for which they seek out counseling.  The types of therapy and counselors can include:


  • Marriage Counselor
  • Child and Family Counseling.
  • Career and Guidance Counseling.
  • Rehabilitation Counselor
  • Mental health Therapists, counselors and group therapy
  • Substance Abuse Therapy or Group Counseling such as AA.
  • Educational Counseling
  • Social Workers


Counseling For the Unemployed, Homeless and Transients

Chris Oneth LMFT  says “Through simple and direct counsel and coaching you may discover great potentials that can move your job and career to a positive place you never thought possible.” Therefore, finding support or seeking out therapy can be difficult when you are faced with challenges such as unemployment or homelessness. However, it is not impossible. A person who wants to seek out support or therapy can:


  • Speak to a social worker and ask about free community projects
  • Speak to shelter coordinators
  • Chat with your local healthcare workers
  • Find instant support & online therapy if you have access to technology
  • Speak to your local ministries



Disease Management



Disease Management is another reason that one can seek out therapy or counseling. Managing health through counseling, group therapy, and one-on-one therapy aims to assist an individual in coping and learning to live with diseases such as HIV and AIDS.

The purpose of counseling is to provide the person with information and prepare them for the personal, medical and social implications of being diagnosed with a disease surrounded by stigmas such as HIV or AIDS. Being diagnosed with a disease such as HIV can be traumatic, and counseling or therapy will guide you in learning to manage and live with the outcome.


Behavioral Health Services Homeless 

This form of counseling and health service provides people who are homeless with support. Support can include counseling for substance abuse, addiction, and mental health. This is achieved through a number of outreach programs and crisis management teams. There are a number of these outreach programs available and also something that communities can come together to support.


Counseling to Prevent Homelessness

There are also a number of prevention programs that offer counseling and support that includes intervention, budget counseling, and assistance in accessing community and government resources in their communities.

“Because Everyone Deserves a Home-The Way Home”  is one such group that offers support, counseling, and guidance for prevention and rehabilitation for homelessness.…

Will Couples Counseling Work Even After A Cheating Fiasco?



When loveless folks watch a drama where the spouse gets caught while cheating on their better half, some assume that the latter is exaggerating when she says something along the lines of “I would’ve preferred it if you just hurt me physically.”

Although any form of violence isn’t acceptable, statements similar to that make sense even in the real world. Welts, bruises, and other physical injuries may heal and not leave marks, but the pain that comes with being on the receiving end of infidelity may not disappear quickly, especially if the victim remembers the incident over and over.

A lifesaver during such a fiasco is couples counseling. To find out if it’ll work for you, below are the things that a counselor may ask you both to do.



  1. Realize The Problem

Often, cheaters won’t readily accept the accuse, thinking that what they did wasn’t technically cheating. In other cases, the supposedly betrayed spouse only has suspicion and hearsay on their side.

When this situation takes place, the therapist has to dig deeper into your thoughts to know if you and your spouse have the same idea about infidelity. The former can then share what honestly constitutes cheating so that both parties are on the same page.

The marriage therapy is already 50% successful once you get to admit that an extramarital affair did occur.

  1. Identify And Resolve Existing Issues

The couples counselor will also encourage you to talk about your problems with each other in a neutral setting. Partners who have a rocky relationship or individual careers to expand, to be specific, don’t always have the opportunity to do that. If they aren’t fighting, they’re just not conversing.

At least, in the presence of a therapist, you can finally bring all your issues with your significant other to the table, and vice versa. You may take turns as well in clearing those topics so that it’ll be easier to fix the marriage or split into good terms.

  1. Assess The Relationship Status

A common reason that cheaters give is that they have fallen out of love or that the spouse has no time for them. While that is more of an alibi than a valid excuse, it merely shows that your coupling needs a severe-evaluation.

Can you still see yourself living and being happy with your better half after five years or so? Can you trust him or her again and bury the proverbial hatchet between you two? Give such questions some thought now.

If the answer is ‘yes’ to either or both, and your spouse feels the same, you can still save your marriage. But in case trust and love are no longer there, then it may be better to end your relationship.


Whether you decide to get a divorce or continue your relationship after the counseling is up to you. What’s important is that you’ll be able to get rid of your emotional burdens and the what-ifs in your head. That is the kind of privilege that you deserve to have after the fiasco, after all.…

Things To Tell Yourself If Seeing A Psychiatrist For The First Time



Have you never reached out to a psychiatrist even though you should’ve already done it?

A few things come to mind when a “yes” comes after that question.

One, the consultation hours may not fit with your hectic schedule. Two, your insurance won’t cover the bill, and you don’t have enough cash to pay for it. Or, three, you’re afraid that the trip to the psychiatric clinic will earn you bothersome nicknames like “loony” or “crazy.”

While the ideas above may sound legitimate in your head, they remain mere excuses. They prevent you from getting the mental help you truly need. So in case, you wish to change the course of your thoughts – and your life – find out the right things to tell yourself if seeing a psychiatrist for the first time.

  1. I’m Not Doing Anything Wrong

That, of course, is true. Psychiatry is a recognized field of medicine; the doctor isn’t some voodoo practitioner that will make you iller. Thus, seeking assistance in that aspect isn’t wrong. Sal Raichbach, PsyD said, “Sadly, only a small percentage of people actively seek professional help for their mental health problems.” Indeed, that is true.

As you enter the office, you’re taking the first step towards healing. You won’t do it, considering you don’t recognize that you have a problem. You may or may not know its specifics, but that’s what you’ll learn once you see a psychiatrist.



  1. I Will Listen To My Psychiatrist

Pay attention to what the doctor tells you as well because you need to take in every information available about your condition. Without that knowledge, how will you be able to remedy the issues?

In case the mental health professional recommends journaling to you, try not to think that they’re ridiculous. Don’t say stuff like, “What am I, a 12-year-old kid who needs a diary?”Instead, do as they suggest, and then figure out if the activity will help you or not.

Psychiatrists won’t push you to keep on doing something when it’s evident that it doesn’t suit you. As Brittany N. Murphy, PHD, LPC, NCC, BC-TMH used to say, “Every counseling session should be your choice, and a choice that you feel moves you towards wellness.” However, they won’t know that unless you comply with what they’re saying.

  1. I Should Be Patient

Know that you also have to maintain your patience throughout your recovery period. While scientists understand mental health now more than ever, there’s still no long-term remedy for all psychiatric disorders out there. Despite that, physicians try their best to lessen your pain and make the symptoms extra bearable.

In times when you want to give up or yell at your psychiatrist, count from one through ten in your head. You may learn some breathing techniques as well so that you’re often calm.

  1. I Have To Tell The Doctor Everything

Indeed, you have to face the truth: going to a psychiatric office entails all your secrets will come out. Perhaps it may not happen in the first session, but it eventually should in due time. After all, the psychiatrist will only be able to help you get better once they know the full extent of your problems. According to Robin D. Stone, LMHC, “Science shows that the mental benefits include improved memory and strengthened neural connections.”

If you feel uncertain about doing so, then look at the diplomas and accolades that your physician garnered in the past. The more psychiatry-related certifications there are, the more trustworthy your psychiatrist should be. You are free to ask friends and family members for recommendations too.



Can you say these things to yourself and believe that you can follow through with every word? In case you’re positive about it, that means you’re truly ready to see a psychiatrist for the first time. Good luck!…

Reasons For Overachievers To Seek Therapy

Knowing that you are the best brings out positive feelings, doesn’t it?

At the office, your boss looks for you first when there’s a vacancy for a higher position or a critical project to handle. Without your circle, your opinion matters more than anyone. The trophies and awards you received over the years may be covering the entire wall in your house as well.…

Importance Of Short Commute To Work When You Are In A Relationship

Have you always wondered how two-career people get to make their relationship work?

They do not need complex equations for that, frankly speaking. These people merely take into consideration one facet that many couples tend to overlook: the distance between their house and their workplace.



Two reasons might fuel this scenario: 1) you already bought or inherited a home far from your new job, or 2) the cost of living near the office is almost beyond your pay grade. For sure, it is fathomable if you cannot move due to either cause. It cannot be wise indeed to bite more than what you can chew, right?

Despite that, in case you have the financial means to relocate and shorten your travel time to work, you should grab the closest residential unit to your workplace. It will not only be for the sake of your productivity, after all – your relationship will benefit from it too.



It Gives You Plenty Of Free Hours To Spend With Your Partner

For starters, imagine needing to commute to the office for two to three hours, depending on how suffocating the traffic jam may be. If work starts at seven in the morning, you have to leave your home around four or five o’clock. Once your eight-hour shift ends, you might get stuck on the road with thousands of cars for several hours. By the time you pull up to the driveway, it is possible that you barely have the energy to gather your stuff, change your clothes, and set the alarm clock before you zonk out.

It is highly significant for you to understand that this circumstance is only appropriate for bachelors and bachelorettes. In case you live with your significant other, though, he or she may feel neglected if that becomes your daily routine. It may not take long before your partner stops putting up with your schedule and asks for their freedom.

Now, assuming your office is five minutes away or just next door, your better half will not complain about your lack of time for him or her. You can spend hours together and even sleep in occasionally since your work site is near. That is a plus point for your relationship, of course.


The Short Trip May Lessen Your Stress

A lengthy commute to work can short-circuit your fuse as well, primarily if you are not used to the situation. You may already be moody as you enter the building, but then your irritation might explode once you or your colleagues mess up with your tasks. Worse, the high level of stress that comes with those negative emotions might stick with you even when you reach the house, thus enabling you to pick fights with your partner.

Is that a great way to maintain a relationship? Not in this lifetime, no. So to avoid losing your sanity – and your significant other – you must shorten your travel time.


Going Back And Forth For Work Is Not Worth The Effort

Assuming your boss offers to raise your salary by 20 percent, but he or she requires you to go to a location that is at least an hour away from home, will you accept the job?

As tempting as it appears, you should respectfully decline the proposition. Apart from not having much quality time for your better half, you will also lose a lot economic-wise. Based on a study from the University of Zurich, you need to receive no less than 40 percent of your current pay to make the long commute worth the effort. Otherwise, look for a job near your home.



Hopefully, it already makes sense to you why some people choose to move pretty close to their workplaces, as well as why you should consider it too.



Indications That Your Marriage Is Hurting Your Career


The industrial and family dynamics have changed so much that a wife no longer has to be a simple home-keeper. You can pursue your dreams of being employed by a company that offers incredible benefits and still be a hands-on parent to your children. In fact, some corporations set up a daycare center within the building for moms who do not have anyone to babysit their kid at home. Therefore, nothing should ideally be able to stop you from having a successful career, right?

Quite unfortunately, there may still be one obstacle: your marriage.

How come?



  1. Your Spouse Does Not Support Your Career Decisions

Considering you waited until your child entered the elementary school before you decided to seek a full-time job, it is possible that your better half may not take the thought of you being away from home every day comfortably. For sure, he may not discourage you at first to send your application, but that does not entail that he approves of it. Once you indeed get the position you’re vying for, the husband might dismiss any subject related to your new work and let you down emotionally most of the time.

The truth of the matter is that you do not deserve that kind of treatment. Since you are no longer “just a mom” now you need to be able to rely on your spouse in every way probable. Otherwise, you might think of quitting your job to appease your man or to avoid further disagreements at home.


  1. Your Partner Is Lazy

Your career also takes a hit if you are married to someone who does not want to help you look after your kids and the house. One may argue that they have a higher position in their company than you; that’s why they cannot be at home often. That fact cannot guarantee that they have a busier schedule compared to yours.

What happens if you cannot depend on your husband to take care of some of your household chores is that you have no choice but to leave work early or not finish your projects within the deadline. Will that hurt your career? Of course! Even the most understanding boss will complain, especially when you are ineffective because you tied the knot to Mr. Lazybones. In the end, that person may ask you to hand in your resignation letter as you perhaps cannot manage your home situation instantly.



  1. You Do Not Want To Get A Divorce

In case you know that your marriage is no longer working yet you still do not wish to file for divorce for the sake of your children, you are not only hurting yourself but also your career.

Imagine, you opted out of the possibility of having a peaceful home and chose to stay under the same roof with a man who may not even care for you. Hence, your brain may always be full of worries, and you may not have enough space left in there to think about your office responsibilities.

Once anyone in the workplace gets a hint that your relationship decreased your competency substantially, it may result in demotion or, worse, termination.


It is okay to fight for your marriage and set aside your career if that will make you happy. Many married ladies took that path, and their life turned out well. Despite that, you should also take note of the women in history that rose through the ranks since their spouse supported them wholeheartedly.

If you want to be like the latter, you then need to ensure that your husband is on board with your decision to go after your dream job. Or else, your marriage will inevitably hurt your career.…

Things To Do If Your Career Compromises Your Marriage



Loving your career is not a heinous crime. You ideally worked hard to attain the position you currently hold. You do not ask for help from others; instead, you are the go-to person whenever your colleagues need advice on something. Perhaps you can also no longer count the number of sleepless nights you spent in the office, finishing your tasks and ensuring that even your strict bosses will not be able to find any loophole in it.

Despite that, your career does not hold a candle to the importance of having a successful marriage. After all, that job will disappear once you become too old to work, but your spouse can stay by your side for as long as you both shall live.

So below are the things you can do if your career compromises your union.


  1. Assess Your Expectations To Each Other

One of the reasons why working couples fight is that they cannot meet each other’s expectations. Being two consenting adults, it is likely that you previously talked about it even before either of you started your respective jobs. However, you should take into account that people’s priorities can change. Your spouse may merely not have the time to inform you about any alteration in his or her goals immediately; thus, you will undoubtedly clash with one another.

A quick fix to this matter is to check in with your better half regularly. Open the topic over dinner or when you are in the bedroom in a non-formal manner. Encourage your partner to tell you their expectations of you, and vice versa. Such a conversation will enlighten you about the boundaries you should never see for the sake of your marriage.



  1. Deal With Your Workaholic Tendencies

When you enjoy the job that you have, your boss probably does not need to ask you to work overtime on a project. In fact, you might do it more often than you should, to the point that your significant other has to fetch you from the office directly to remind you of the hour.

Remember that this kind of circumstance is only acceptable occasionally. If it turns into a habit, your spouse may get tired of the situation and ask if you are doing it to avoid being with him or her.

The best thing you can do, therefore, is to curb your workaholic tendencies. Being passionate about your job is all right. What isn’t okay is your decision to prioritize it over quality time with your family. The latter, in reality, is what pushes neglected spouses to look for another man or woman who will cherish them the way you should.


  1. Remain Flexible

Another benefit of not overdoing your work is that you will have the energy to take care of your entire family after office hours. It is vital, especially when you have kids who still require your guidance and affection to grow well. Your marriage may stay strong as well since you can help out at home and get cozy with your husband or wife often.



Balancing your relationship and career may not be as easy as pie, but it surely is possible. You only need a significant dose of love, sensitivity, and diligence in your system, and neither aspect of your life will ever suffer.