The Pros And Cons Of Online Communities


There are roughly 2 billion people who actively use Facebook. By contrast, almost 3.5 billion have access to the internet (though not necessarily broadband). Given the usefulness and apparent ubiquity of Mark Zuckerberg’s creation, what explains the size of this un-Faced market? The biggest part of the answer must be the more than 800 million internet users who live in countries where internet use is restricted for reasons of censorship, but this still leaves a gap 800 million souls wide.

One of the wonderful things the internet has made possible is for people who are somehow like-minded to get in touch and share their thoughts. Facebook offers numerous such groups, offering forums for taxidermy enthusiasts, depression chat rooms, and groups where conspiracy theorists can argue with one another until the cows come home. In addition, users can post pictures of their food and tell the world what kind of mood they’re in.…

Practical Exercises For Overcoming Shyness


In some cases, strangers chat effortlessly at parties, at work, and in public, yet a large proportion of people would rather catch a rattlesnake barehanded than say “hello” and make eye contact. Online chat with strangers seems to be less intimidating given anonymity. This is not really abnormal since “normal” covers such a wide spectrum that most types of behavior don’t definitively fall either inside or outside the range, as long as no harm is caused.…

Developing An Organized And Motivated Habit


It’s not every day that you feel like getting up and highly motivated to get through the day. There are days you do not understand if you’re just tired, lazy or lost. But what do self-motivated and organized people do every day to accomplish their tasks and goals despite the lack of willpower to carry on? How do they organize and plan their day despite not feeling good about it? These are some of the traits successful people do that set them apart from the majority.…

A Step-by-step Guide to Healing and Forgiveness


At some point in our lives, we meet people that hurt us, tarnished friendships, relationships that didn’t last the way we expected them to be, or any experiences yielding trust issues. These are just some of the encounters that sometimes let us question humanity, and when meeting new people we are always guarded and doubtful because of the hurtful situations people have brought in our lives in the past. But then again, it is socially and psychologically healthy to let go of these negativities, move on with our lives and welcome the future full of hope and optimism. So what are the key ingredients in achieving this and what are the dos and don’ts that we should keep in mind as we embrace our readiness and sincerity when it comes to forgiving someone? Here are some of the key factors to keep in mind.

Do not hold grudges.

According to John M. Grohol, Psy.D., “The challenge with anger is finding a way to express it in a way that doesn’t make others want to shut down or become defensive or scared.” Cultivating negative emotions doesn’t make you better but rather a bitter kind of person. It is unhealthy to hold grudges as sometimes heinous crimes and murders in the history of mankind were rooted from grudges. When you allow yourself to be consumed by anger, you might be predisposed to committing bad behaviors. If it is essential to detach yourself for a moment from the person who caused you pain and the distance is helpful as of the moment, please do so.

Do not stalk.

Sometimes we have the tendency to stalk our enemies, check on what they’re up to and compare our own life with theirs. There is nothing helpful at all with this kind of behavior. All you have to be mindful about is your own life and that is all that matters. With the advent of social media, more and more people instead of using this platform to develop themselves and make friends, are utilizing it as a tool to stalk their enemies, sometimes even using fake accounts, creating stranger chat rooms just to ruin them. This is very unhealthy and pointless, so cut it out.


Do not wish them ill.

Wish them well. It may be very hard to forgive somebody, especially if the pain they afflicted on you was almost unbearable and has damaged your views about people and life. However, by letting go of all the heartaches and pains, taking account of your own happiness by wishing them well with their lives is a key factor in achieving peace. A blissful and blessed state of your mind and spirit. As they say, karma has its own way of dealing with things. What you give to the world will always come back to you. “Understanding underlying aspects of our anger and understanding our role in our relationship is a key to treating anger and understanding it as an attempt to communicate something or not getting our basic needs met in our relationships,” says Zuzana Sakova, LPC

Do not be naive.

Because of the trauma probably we become more cautious with our acquaintances. Maybe that experience taught us not to be naive. Perhaps it can serve as a guide for our future experiences – not to trust and not to be trusted right away. That in order to know a person better, we must invest in spending more time with them evaluating their consistency when it comes to their thoughts, words, and actions. We must first assess their values and on how important it is for them to be credible and be a person of integrity.


According to Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD, “give yourself permission to do some serious emotional healing to become your happiest self and remember, it is a process more than a destination.” It may not be an easy feat to forgive people and forget the pains of the past but we owe that to ourselves. We owe that to the beautiful people with kind hearts who have tirelessly kept their faith for humanity by continuously doing good in many aspects of their lives. That is the kind of people worth emulating, the kind of people we look up to who are all deserving of respect. Even if there are bad ones, there are more good ones. Keep on doing the good deeds.…

Selecting A Therapist

Many people, at some point in their lives, realize that talk therapy is something they can use to improve their happiness. That is because “The benefits of therapy are vast, including having an objective perspective on happenings in your life, a sounding board for you to talk through options before taking action, a place where you can deepen self-awareness, access resources to support your growth and personal development, and much more,” says Robin D. Stone, LMHC. In some cases, this may be because they have realized that the way they’ve been continuing leads to a bad destination, such as when they are suffering from addiction or depression. Actual mental disorders are not the only reason to seek out a therapist, though. A lot of people simply feel that they need to gain a better perspective on where they are, or find a way to get out of a mental rut. A therapist near me works almost exclusively at advising teenagers about their career choices. In some cases, a parent or spouse might want to consult a mental health professional in order to better understand a family member. There are literally dozens of reasons other than having a psychological illness to seek out a therapist and it helps to read articles about this.

Stop, Listen, Reassess

One part of our education as human beings take the form of little mottoes that may help us deal with stressful situations if we encounter them. Examples of these are “stop, drop and roll” and “don’t let the sun set on an argument” – both of which can help us deal with the problems facing us while we’re unable to think clearly.


Dealing with the “big picture” however, is a lot more complicated. Self-reflection takes a lot of mental effort, but without it, we will tend to continue doing tomorrow exactly what we did yesterday, even when we know that this will not make us happy or help us grow. Without finding the courage to take a hard look at our life situation, people often get stuck in relationships, friendships and entire careers that do not satisfy them. For this reason, it’s worthwhile to stop, listen and reassess our choices and their results from time to time.

Stress-Related Health Problems That Should Not Be Ignored

Everyone encounters stress one way or another. Sometimes, it comes from doing something essential, like exercise. We get stressed when our minds are challenged after a grueling chess game. But when stress becomes severe, such as in traumatic experiences or chronic sleep disturbances, it can get really unpleasant and may lead to some serious health problems. 

“Research tells us that this is a common experience for those under stress. That everyone experiences stress and up to a certain level it can be helpful. Yet, stress can negatively impact one’s normal daily functioning or health.” That is according to Edna M. Esnil, PsyD. With that, here are some stress-related health problems that we should not ignore:…

The Communication Dance: Practical Body Language


Some life skills are picked up automatically (or apparently so) as we grow up, others can only be learned, but most fall somewhere between these two poles. Interpreting and projecting body language is one of the latter kind. We all understand that somebody who’s shouting and turning red in the face is probably angry, while someone who’s gazing at the floor and shuffling his feet is probably embarrassed or ashamed. But what does it mean if a woman folds her arms over her chest: is she cold, feeling uneasy, or does she need to use the restroom?


At work, in relationships, at school – in fact in any situation that involves interacting with people face to face – knowing how to interpret the postures and movements of others, and knowing how to project the image you want just makes life much easier. It’s actually a shame that nonverbal communication isn’t taught to children in the same way grammar is: it has its own type of grammar which links directly to our minds and emotions.…

How To Talk With, Instead Of A Person


As far as life skills go, knowing how to communicate effectively is one of the most important, but seems to be something few people are willing to study. Perhaps they plan to talk louder whenever they’re not understood, or just avoid everyone who won’t put in the extra effort needed to communicate with them. If so, they will find that effective, considerate communication is the easiest way of avoiding conflict and building good relationships whether with a colleague, spouse or friend.Regardless of whether you’re a teacher, a manager, salesman or in any other social role, learning more about conversational skills will reap great benefits and make your daily life  much easier.


Remember that It Goes Both Ways

Just because you’ve been talking since you were three years old doesn’t mean that you understand a conversation. The first step towards knowing how to communicate is to realize that it’s as much a reflexive verb as a transient one; in other words, talking isn’t only about telling someone something, but also allowing them to tell you things.…